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New series beginning this weekend

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This is a first for my church.  Starting this weekend we are addressing the topic of sex and the “taboos” that surround it.  Instead of allowing the world around us to define sex we will be taking a few weeks to see what God has to say about such a controversial subject.  This should be interesting.

BTW: Thanks to Open from for the promo stuff check it out


Shut up and listen


I am coming up on my two year wedding anniversary at the end of this month.  One of the current lessons I am learning is how to interpret whether my wife wants me to fix the problem or just Shut up and listen.  

By nature I am a person who wants to quickly hear the problem, fix the problem, and be done with problem.  Most of the time this is not what she is looking for.  She does not want me to fix the problem.  Rachel wants my attention and wants me to just listen.  With my personality this can be difficult, but for me learning to listen is going to be a key to great marriage.  

In my own life someone just listening has helped me grow.  Hearing the words come out of my mouth while talking things over helps me realize how foolish I’ve been or it helps me discover the answer I am looking for.  So the next time your wife (or anyone for that fact) comes to you with a problem ask yourself whether this something that she wants fixed or should you just Shut up and listen.

BTW: 1. My mother-in-law gave me the inspiration for this one and at one point she told me that Rachel has a minimum amount of words that she needs to get in each day.  This is another thing you should keep in mind. 

Shut up

Now from the title of this post you may be thinking this is going to be some negative rant on what is upsetting me, but you’re wrong.  Actually, you couldn’t be farther from the truth.  You may also be thinking, didn’t the Church Marketing Sucks Blog and Kem Meyer just post a link to the Harvard Business Review that talked about this very same topic.  You are mostly correct in this assumption, but I promise you (you can ask my friend Sam Luce) that this is a blog series I have been talking about doing for the last couple of weeks. 

In my life as a Christ-follower, husband, and a pastor I am learning that there are times when it’s best to just Shut Up.  The more I talk the more trouble I usually find myself in.  Have you ever been in this place?  Have you ever put your foot in your mouth?  Have you ever over-communicated?  If so, this series is going to be right up your alley.

Next post: Shut up and sing

Post you may find interesting

Here are some post I think you will find inspiring, helpful, and at times amusing.  Enjoy!

The Thursday Blog: Great post by Funny Man Dan (FMD) called Stingy Seeds.  With great insight and humor FMD reminds every single young man of their job.  Their job is to make every single woman in their life feel special. 

Steven Furtick: This is actually a guest blog by Meredith Brock called That Can’t Happen.  Merideth tells us that, That can’t happen does happen. Inevitably.  Inconveniently.  In recurring patterns.”  She offers great ideas for what to do when THAT happens.

Mark Conner: This is a humorous post about the differences between what men and what women look for in a relationship.  Mark is so right, “you’ve gotta laugh.”

Steven Furtick: Write EVERYTHING down.  In this post we are encouraged to, “Record every creative impulse. Every possible vision initiative.  Every good idea.  Every bad idea.  Every “I need to check into that” situation.”   You may be asking yourself, why?  Pastor Steven says that, “recording your thoughts is to vision what a blueprint is to a building.”  It kind of makes you wonder about those seemingly random ideas we so quickly dismiss. 

Favorites Friday

With my blog still being fairly new I would like to start a tradition.  On Fridays I am going to blog about things that are favorites of mine and I thought the first place to start would be with my wife.  This is a picture of me and my lovely wife Rachel at her uncles house (I think for Thanksgiving).  

On May 25th we will be celebrating our second anniversary.  It has gone by so fast and it has been great.  Rachel is such a strength and support to my life.  It amazes me sometimes how much she loves me and believes in me.  I can’t imagine life without her, it just wouldn’t be the same.  So, Babe, the first Favorites Friday is all yours.  


Josh and Rachel